The rarest of events occurred this week. My baby (yes, he is of the age of majority and is poised to vote in next week’s election, but my baby will always be my baby) and I hit the road to the Twin Cities this week. It’s spring break week here, and by “spring” break what I mean is temps in the high teens-low 20s and about a foot and a half of snow. Super. Everyone I know spent their spring break chasing the sun and tropical temperatures, but no, not me. Nope, what do I do? I head north.
Happily north, I might add.
It was just me and the boys this week. Seeing as our dog is on his last legs here, I insist that he not be left in the care of neighbors or a kennel. It would be cruel to him and a real shit thing to leave with our dog-sitting neighbors, whom I like and respect a lot. I’m not leaving “is today the day my dog dies?” for my neighbors to manage, so for a change, I got the road trip this time.
I got to spend eleven hours in the car and two hotel overnights with just my younger son and big chunks of time with him and his big brother both. It has been a very long time since I have had them both in my captive audience. My little one hates long drives but likes music, so we passed time me singing/him whistling alternating with periods of companionable silence punctuated occasionally with some very deep thoughts.
I’m keeping the deepest of deep thoughts close to my heart, but will share a few of the lighter, sillier observations made after a few days with young adult men with you here.
- Little One and I share a bunch of the same Taylor Swift skip songs. Yes, I said it–skip songs.
- Little One and I share a bunch of the same Barenaked Ladies faves. Friends, I could not have predicted the number of BNL tunes on his iPhone shuffle. I do feel that sense of unearned parental pride in having musically mentored him well though.
- I don’t know who I thought I was fooling in packing a yoga mat. Planning Wendy is an entirely different person than Actually Getting off Your Ass and Doing Wendy is. In my defense, I walked about 8-9 miles per day. The campus is home to 54,000 students, so navigating from Point A to Point B takes a minute. I wasn’t exactly idle.
- It comes as a bit of a surprise to realize you know enough Taylor Swift songs off the top of your head to do your first names in song titles (Wildest Dreams, Enchanted, No Body No Crime, Delicate, You’re On Your Own Kid). We had eleven hours in the car, so there was time to think about such things.
- High school kids actively work on creating “couple names” for themselves and their friends (think “Brangelina,” “Bennifer,” or of course, the more recently minted “Tayvis”).
- I don’t believe all three Spencers locations at the Mall of America are necessary.
- “Molten cheese” is a real thing and servers at Matt’s Bar do provide advance warning that the Juicy Lucy you’re about to dispatch will scald your face off if you don’t give it a minute before digging in. I feel like I’ve earned some MPLS cred having eaten at the home of the original Juicy Lucy (or so they say anyway, and who am I to doubt their authenticity when at least one US president has dined there?).
- NEVER, under any circumstance whatsoever, EVER trust my gut for decision-making. If there is a wrong turn to be made, wrong line to join, wrong freaking Wordle letter to guess, wrong anything, know that I will make that and every wrong choice. The number of times I chose poorly during these few days alone could populate an entire blog post. Hell, my bad calls could be their own how not-to book.
- I truly love his university campus atmosphere and maroon and gold has actually grown on me. If there was a thing I’d go back in time for, it would be to have the opportunity to have lived in a dorm and then in university-adjacent off-campus housing for college.
- I do not love the amount of graffiti on Minneapolis’ freeway overpasses. How do people get up and out there anyway? And how do they hang on while spray painting?
- The Jenny Holzer-engraved benches lined up along a stretch of the sculpture garden can rip your conscience wide open.
- You can, in fact, overuse “Bro” and/or “Bruh.” Bro!
- When he tells me he wants to hike, I will hike anywhere and for as long a distance as Big Kid wants. However, I will not approach a late night hike including a snow-covered staircase under cover of darkness with that same level of enthusiasm.
- I enjoy the complimentary hotel breakfast buffet way more than I probably should.
- I wouldn’t have ever expected to pass a few hours in an art museum with my Little One, but I was delighted to have done just that.
- Hearing your child say “This is the spot that makes me know that I belong here, that as I look out over the city, I know I am meant to be right here” is simultaneously the most comforting and heart-wrenching sentiment I’ve ever heard.
- Big Kid is never coming back to live in this zip code again.
- I will cry my way through asking “Are you going to miss your mommy?” every time I leave Minneapolis. . .
- . . . until I move to Minneapolis myself. We need a change of scenery and I think maybe Minnesota-Nice would be nice. Cold, but nice.